Dealing with a Narcissist

10 Signs and Tips to Deal with Narcissists

Ten Signs That Your Spouse May Be A Narcissist

Sometimes your spouse or significant other has not been clinically diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder but may you have some suspicions that they may be a narcissist. While this should not replace medical advice or diagnosis, here are ten signs that your spouse may be a narcissist from the perspective of a family law attorney.

1. They lack empathy: Narcissists often struggle to understand the feelings or perspectives of those around them. For example, they may not show concern when you’re upset or dismiss your feelings as irrelevant.

2. They crave admiration: Narcissists need constant validation and attention. They may seek praise for everything they do or expect special treatment because they believe they’re better than others.

3. They have an inflated sense of self-importance: Narcissists often believe they’re entitled to special treatment because they’re superior to others. For example, they might assume that they should always be the center of attention in a group or that their opinions are always right.


4. They’re manipulative: Narcissists may use lies, guilt, or other tactics to get what they want. For example, they might twist your words to make you feel bad for something you didn’t even do.

5. They lack accountability: Narcissists often avoid taking responsibility for their actions. They may blame others for their mistakes or refuse to apologize when they hurt someone.

6. They are controlling: Narcissists often try to control every aspect of their partner’s life, from their appearance to their social circle. For example, they might insist that you dress a certain way or forbid you from seeing certain friends.

7. They get easily offended: Narcissists can be extremely thin-skinned and take even minor criticisms as personal attacks. They may lash out or become angry when they feel threatened.

8. They are overly competitive: Narcissists often see everything as a competition, and they need to win at all costs. For example, they might try to one-up you in conversations or sabotage your successes.

9. The act entitled: Narcissists often believe they deserve special treatment or privileges because of their status or achievements. For example, they might expect you to cater to their every need or demand expensive gifts for no reason.

10. They lack insight in their actions or how they impact others around them: Narcissists often have a distorted view of themselves and their relationships. They may be unable to see how their behavior affects others or deny that there’s anything wrong with their actions.

Ten Tips For Divorcing A Narcissist:

Maybe your spouse has been clinically diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder or maybe you have a strong suspicion, here are ten tips for divorcing a narcissist.

  1. Plan ahead: Before filing for divorce, make sure to have a solid plan in place to ensure your safety and the safety of your children.
  1. Choose the right lawyer: Look for a lawyer who has experience working with narcissistic personalities, as they will be better equipped to handle the unique challenges that may arise. A lawyer who has experience dealing with narcissistic personalities can provide invaluable guidance and representation.
  1. Keep things civil: While it can be difficult, try to keep communication with your spouse as civil and business-like as possible. Avoid getting drawn into arguments or emotional exchanges.
  1. Don’t engage in power struggles: Narcissists thrive on power struggles, so try not to engage in them. Instead, focus on your own goals and needs.
  1. Trust your instincts: If something doesn’t feel right, listen to your gut. Narcissists are often masters of manipulation and may try to gaslight or twist the truth to their advantage.
  1. Stay organized: Keep track of all important documents, emails, and conversations related to the divorce. This will help you stay on top of things and avoid getting overwhelmed.
  1. Don’t expect empathy: Narcissists lack empathy and may not be able to see things from your perspective. Don’t expect them to suddenly change or become more understanding. It is important to establish clear boundaries with your spouse and stick to them, even if it means limiting contact with them.
  1. Take care of yourself: Divorcing a narcissist can be emotionally draining, so make sure to prioritize self-care. Surround yourself with people who can offer emotional support and practical help during this difficult time. Seek support from friends, family, or a therapist if needed. Take care of your physical and emotional health by eating well, exercising, getting enough sleep, and seeking therapy if necessary.
  1. Be prepared for a fight: Narcissists often see divorce as a battle, and may fight tooth and nail to get what they want. Be prepared for twists and turns along the way. Make sure you document everything by keeping a record of all the interactions you have with your spouse, including emails, text messages, phone calls, and in-person conversations.
  1. Stay focused on the end goal: Despite the challenges, remember that divorcing a narcissist is ultimately about creating a better life for yourself. Stay focused on your goals and don’t let your ex’s behavior derail your progress.

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